intimacy
C2Pronunciation
UK
- /ˈɪntɪməsi/
US
- /ˈɪntəməsi/
Meanings
Noun
close personal familiarity, trust, or emotional connection
sexual or physically intimate closeness
a private, personal, or cozy quality in a place, text, or interaction
Beyond the definition
It is not just about physical closeness, though that can be part of it. It is the feeling of a deep connection with another person, a sense of being truly known and accepted. Think of the comfortable silence you share with a best friend, or the way you feel safe telling someone your deepest fears. It is not always romantic; it can grow between family members, close friends, or even between a person and a pet. At its heart, it involves honesty, trust, openness, and a feeling that you understand each other well. In writing, intimate detail can also describe a style that lets readers feel close to a character's inner life.
Intimacy is a complex concept encompassing emotional, physical, intellectual, and even spiritual closeness between people. It's more than just knowing facts about someone; it's understanding their hopes, fears, dreams, and vulnerabilities—and feeling safe enough to share your own. While often associated with romantic relationships, intimacy exists in many forms. A parent and child can share a deep emotional intimacy built on years of love and trust. Close friends develop intellectual intimacy through shared interests and stimulating conversations.
At its core, intimacy is about letting someone come close to your real self and meeting the real self of another person with care and understanding. A lack of intimacy can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection, while healthy intimacy can build trust, security, and a strong sense of belonging.
However, it's important to remember that intimacy requires boundaries and mutual respect. It's not about merging into one person, but maintaining individuality within a close connection. In literature or film, characters often build intimacy through shared experiences, vulnerable conversations, and acts of kindness. The absence of intimacy can be just as powerful a storytelling device, highlighting themes of isolation and alienation.
So, whether it's the quiet comfort of a long-term relationship, the playful banter with a close friend, or the deep connection you feel to your family—intimacy is about shared vulnerability, mutual understanding, and the beautiful experience of being truly seen.
Examples
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Relationship building
It took months before they built real intimacy in their relationship.
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Private conversation
She missed the quiet intimacy of their late-night talks.
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Family bond
The movie shows the intimacy between the two sisters without making it sentimental.
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Physical closeness
After the divorce, he found physical intimacy difficult.
- Phrasephysical intimacy
close touching, kissing, or sex
More examplesFewer examples
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Place atmosphere
The small restaurant has an intimacy that large hotels usually lack.
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Emotional avoidance
His fear of intimacy made it hard for him to trust new partners.
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Writing style
The book creates a sense of intimacy by using letters and diary entries.
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Expert knowledge
Her intimacy with the subject comes from years of fieldwork.
- Patternintimacy with + subject
deep knowledge of it
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Used with (collocations)
- emotional intimacy
- physical intimacy
- a sense of intimacy
- fear of intimacy
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Main spelling
- intimacynoun
Forms
- intimaciespluralnoun