hurtful
A2Pronunciation
UK
- /hˈɜːtfəl/
US
- /ˈhɜrtfəl/
Description
- Causing emotional pain
- unkind
- upsetting
Something hurtful causes emotional pain or distress. It is more than physical pain; it affects your feelings. A hurtful comment is not a punch to the arm, but a blow to your self-esteem. Sometimes something is hurtful by accident. A person may not realize their words will sting. Other times, it is deliberate and meant to cause harm. Think of a story where a character feels betrayed by a friend; that betrayal would be deeply hurtful. The word can also describe actions, not just words, like a hurtful rejection or a hurtful silence.
The word "hurtful" describes something that causes emotional pain, offense, or distress. It goes beyond physical harm and reaches into the world of feelings. A hurtful experience can leave an emotional wound and affect someone's self-worth, confidence, or sense of security. Imagine a young artist sharing their work with pride, only to receive harsh criticism; those words could be incredibly hurtful.
Hurtfulness is not always intentional. Sometimes people say things without realizing the impact they will have. A clumsy remark, meant as a joke, can still be deeply hurtful if it touches on a sensitive topic. However, it can also be deliberate and used as a weapon to cause emotional pain. Bullying, for example, often relies on hurtful words and actions.
The context of "hurtful" is important. A playful tease between close friends might not be considered hurtful, but the same comment directed at someone insecure could be devastating. It's about the receiver's perception and vulnerability.
You can use "hurtful" to describe a wide range of things: hurtful words, actions, silences, rejections, or even memories. It speaks to anything that wounds the heart and leaves a lasting emotional scar. Think of Maya Angelou's poem "Still I Rise," where she addresses people who try to diminish her spirit with hurtful words; it is a powerful example of overcoming pain and reclaiming self-worth. So, when something cuts deeper than skin, when it bruises the soul, that is when you can describe it as hurtful.
Examples
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Direct remark
That was a hurtful thing to say.
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Joking comment
I know you were joking, but the comment still felt hurtful.
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Family comparison
Comparing her to her sister all the time is hurtful to her.
Pattern
hurtful to + person
causing emotional pain to that person
- 4
Intent
He apologized and said he hadn't meant to be hurtful.
Phrase
mean to be hurtful
want to upset someone
- 5
Online criticism
Online criticism can be honest without being hurtful.
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Public humiliation
What stayed with him was not the argument itself, but the hurtful way she laughed at him.
Forms and spellings
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Main spelling
- hurtfuladjective