flatter
C1Pronunciation
UK
- /flˈætə/
US
- /ˈflætər/
Description
- Praise excessively
- compliment insincerely
- make someone look better
- please someone's ego
- win favor
To flatter someone is to praise them a lot, often in a way that feels too eager or not fully honest. It is more than giving a real compliment; it usually suggests trying to please someone and get them on your side. But the word is not only about speech. In clothes, fashion, and photography, it can also mean making someone look better than usual. A certain color, cut, or light can flatter a person by showing their best features. So the word can describe either sweet talk that serves a purpose or something that makes a person look especially good.
To flatter is to praise someone too much, often in a way that is not fully sincere, especially to gain favor or some advantage. It appeals to a person's ego and may exaggerate their good qualities or success. The word comes from an Old French verb meaning "to make smooth," which fits the idea of smoothing over the truth in order to please someone.
In social settings, you might say, "He tried to flatter her with constant compliments," which suggests his praise was meant to win her over rather than simply express honest admiration. In history and literature, people often flatter those in power to gain protection, status, or rewards. Writers such as Shakespeare often showed how easily rulers and other powerful people could be influenced by praise they wanted to hear.
Beyond speech, the word also has an important meaning in appearance. If a friend says, "That color really flatters you," they mean it makes you look more attractive, healthier, or more balanced. In this sense, a flattering portrait or outfit shows someone in a very pleasing way, sometimes softening small imperfections. Here, the word is not necessarily negative; it simply means that something suits a person well and improves how they look.
Ultimately, a sincere compliment is usually honest and direct, while flattery often goes further and carries a purpose, whether that purpose is to please, persuade, or gain something. At the same time, when we talk about clothes, colors, angles, or light, the word simply means making someone or something look better. The meaning depends on the context: in conversation it can sound sly, but in style or art it is often neutral or positive.
Examples
- 1
Job search
He kept flattering the manager, hoping it would help him get the job.
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Persuasion
She tried to flatter him into changing his mind.
Pattern
flatter someone into doing X
praise someone to persuade them to do it
- 3
Compliment response
"You're too kind," Maya said. "You're just flattering me."
- 4
Honored reaction
I was flattered by the invitation to speak at the event.
- 5
Polite refusal
I'm flattered that you asked me, but I can't stay for dinner.
- 6
Appearance
That shade of blue really flatters your eyes.
- 7
Photo appearance
The photo is nice, but the lighting isn't very flattering.
Meaning
flattering
making someone look more attractive
- 8
Self-importance
Don't flatter yourself - they invite everyone.
Phrase
don't flatter yourself
don't think too highly of your importance here
Forms and spellings
4 forms open this card.
Main spelling
- flatterverbadjective
Forms
- flattering-ing formverbadjective
- flatteredpast tenseverbadjective
- flattersverbadjective