ladylike
C2Pronunciation
UK
- /lˈeɪdɪlˌaɪk/
US
- /ˈleɪdiˌlaɪk/
Description
- graceful
- polite
- proper for a woman
- refined
To describe someone as "ladylike" means they behave in a way that is traditionally seen as proper, graceful, and polite for a woman. It often suggests good manners, calm speech, and careful behavior. The word comes from older social ideas about how women were expected to act, so it can sound old-fashioned today. You might say someone stayed calm and courteous in a tense moment and seemed "ladylike," or that a child was told to act more "ladylike" at a formal event.
The word carries the feel of an earlier time, when society had clear rules about how women should act in public. In modern use, it can still be positive, meaning calm, elegant, and respectful, but it can also suggest old gender expectations. A young girl might be encouraged to show "ladylike" behavior before a ceremony, or an older woman might be praised for her steady and "ladylike" manner.
"Ladylike" is an adjective used to describe behavior that is seen as graceful, polite, and proper for a woman. It brings to mind good manners, self-control, and a neat or elegant way of carrying oneself. Historically, the term was closely tied to social expectations for women, especially ideas about modesty, restraint, and acting in a way that others would judge as respectable. It often suggests careful speech, calm movements, and the avoidance of anything seen as rude, rough, or improper.
While the main meaning still points to grace and good manners, the way people use "ladylike" has changed over time. In modern English, it is still mostly used for women and girls, but it may sound dated because it depends on traditional ideas of femininity. Sometimes it is used warmly, to praise someone for being calm, courteous, or elegant. At other times, it can sound critical or limiting, especially if it is used to tell someone they should behave in a more traditionally feminine way. Saying that someone is "trying too hard to be ladylike" may suggest that their behavior feels forced or unnatural.
Historically, the idea of being "ladylike" played a major role in shaping how women were expected to dress, speak, and behave, especially in more formal societies. Literature and social advice from earlier centuries often treated "ladylike" behavior as an ideal, while also showing how restrictive that ideal could be. Today the word is still understood, but it carries both the positive sense of elegance and the older baggage of gender rules. Because of that, it can describe genuine grace and respect, or it can hint at social pressure about how a woman is supposed to act.
Examples
- 1
Posture
She sat with her knees together, trying to look ladylike.
- 2
Old-fashioned judgment
My grandmother always said it wasn’t ladylike to shout across the room.
Caution
not ladylike
judged not polite or proper for a woman, often in an old-fashioned way
- 3
Clothing style
The magazine described her style as ladylike, with neat dresses, low heels, and pearls.
Phrase
ladylike style
a neat, traditional, feminine style
- 4
Gender expectations
She laughed at the idea that climbing trees was not ladylike.
Forms and spellings
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Main spelling
- ladylikeadjective